A heartfelt note from Irrfan's family..

NewsBharati    02-May-2020 11:04:14 AM
Total Views |
Mumbai, May 2: Late actor Irrfan Khan's wife and, television writer and producer Sutapa Sikdar have opened up about their 35 years of companionship in a heartfelt letter two days after his death. She posted a lovely click with Irrfan and captioned it saying, "I have not lost I have gained in every which way…" Irrfan and Sutapa had met at the National School of Drama.
 
560_2  H x W: 0 
 
The couple got married in 1995. In the two-page letter, she talked about what she learned from him and expressed gratitude about how the world has reacted to his death as if it was their loss. Sutapa went on to say that the loss is "unbelievable" for the family but refrained from categorising her letter as a family statement saying “how can I write this as a family statement when the whole world is taking it as a personal loss”.
 
She said even though it is hard to come to terms with Irrfan’s absence, he taught her to not settle for "ordinary in anything".
 
"It’s unbelievable for us but I would put it in Irrfan’s words, 'it's magical ' whether he is there or not there, and that’s what he loved, he never loved one-dimensional reality. The only thing I have a grudge against him is; he has spoiled me for life. His strive for perfection doesn’t let me settle for ordinary in anything.
 
"There was a rhythm which he always saw in everything, even in cacophony and chaos, so I have learned to sing and dance to the music of that rhythm, even with my tone-deaf voice and two left feet,” she said.
 
She called their life a “masterclass in acting” and revealed how particular she was in mugging up his medical reports. Sikdar said that she had learned to see a harmony in cacophony when the 'dramatic entry' of the 'uninvited guests' happened. "The doctor's reports were like scripts which I wanted to perfect, so I never miss any detail that he sought for in his performance," she added.
 
 
She then proceeded to thank the doctors in the UK for their support. Sikdar called the late actor an 'orchestra conductor' and compared their two-and-a-half-year-old journey with an act in a play, which had its interlude, beginning, middle, and culmination.
 

560_3  H x W: 0
 
“It’s difficult to explain what a wondrous, beautiful, overwhelming, painful, and exciting this journey has been. I find this 2 and 1/2 years to have been an interlude, which had its beginning, middle, and culmination with Irrfan helming the role of the orchestra conductor…” she said.
 
In the absence of their father, Sutapa said she just hopes her children move ahead with their father's guidance in mind. She summed up her life with Irrfan as a “wondrous, beautiful, overwhelming, painful and exciting journey “ and said, “Ours was not a marriage, it was a union. I see my little family, in a boat, with both my sons Babil and Ayaan, paddling it forward, with Irrfan guiding them “wahan nahi, yahan se modo” but since life is not cinema and there are no retakes. I sincerely wish my children sail this boat safely with their father’s guidance in mind and through the storm.”

560_1  H x W: 0
 
Babil and Ayan said he always asked them to learn to surrender to "dance of uncertainty" and "not let their mind control them." Sutapa said the family will plant night-blooming jasmine, Irrfan’s favorite, where he was laid to rest “after a victorious journey”.
 
The emotional and heartfelt statement will surely bring back memories of the great actor and a wonderful human being that Irrfan was.