Communication and dialogue are the only ways to help
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Two suicide cases caught my attention and compelled me to give the issue serious thought. The first case was discussed by Karyakartas, a young man who died by suicide; it baffled many. He was engaged to a girl, probably of his choice or his type. His life was going well, but somehow, before his marriage, he took his life. No one could understand what made him take this decision.
A senior police officer also described a case of a young, educated and working girl. She was smart and beautiful, leading her life independently. Having rented a small apartment, she had a work-from-home job, so she was obviously used to being at home most of the time. Used to order her choice of food, mostly. Probably had broken up with her boyfriend, but the rest was well.
After her death, when police inquired about her, they realised that she had almost no contact with the neighbours. Staying away from parents had restricted her interaction with them, too. Her home was a spectacle to witness. For a long time, no garbage went out of the home. There were heaps and heaps of rappers of the food ordered, and she would open the door just to receive the parcel. The money was paid online. She suffocated herself to death, which is very painful and difficult to perform.
He said, we as society members have to be cautious about this issue. Everyone has to talk to people around; this simple thing needs to be remembered and followed religiously. Communication is the only effective way to help people take such drastic steps in life.
The officer urged young people to talk to friends, relatives, and extended family members about their problems. The situation may be serious, but there is always some way out. Dying by suicide has never been a solution to any problem.
A senior counsellor suggested a few steps. She feels that whenever we meet someone, we need to acknowledge their presence and inquire how is everything is in their life. This may sound like a simple exchange, but sometimes it gives a little hope to individuals facing a difficult situation.
Sometimes people are trapped in a whirlwind of thought, and a little exchange offers some support and the feeling that one is not alone. It encourages the disturbed minds to communicate and seek help.
She made a very significant point; she implores all not be judgmental unnecessarily. Especially parents have to remember that being judgmental doesn't help anyone, it vitiates the situation and relation instead. It compels people to maintain distance and keep quiet. People around us avoid talking about their feelings or insecurities. It pushes them to the point of feeling lonely, too. Once they cut themselves away, it is very difficult to establish communication. We have to be very careful on this note.
On the contrary, some parents give too much space to their children, to the extent that they just don't know anything about them or the strife in their lives. They just live in oblivion; even this pattern of giving extreme liberty should also be avoided.
The most meaningful suggestion was that no one should shy away from taking the help of a professional counsellor. Usually, the helplines that help people in distress are absolutely free. It, unfortunately a stigma attached to it. As we go to a doctor for physical ailments, we need to seek help in case of mental problems, too. It certainly helps.
Pressure or tension has become a part of life now; the situations are very complex and demanding. We all have to handle them with a deft hand, cannot ignore them, thinking that time heals everything.
A senior police officer also described a case of a young, educated and working girl. She was smart and beautiful, leading her life independently. Having rented a small apartment, she had a work-from-home job, so she was obviously used to being at home most of the time. Used to order her choice of food, mostly. Probably had broken up with her boyfriend, but the rest was well.
After her death, when police inquired about her, they realised that she had almost no contact with the neighbours. Staying away from parents had restricted her interaction with them, too. Her home was a spectacle to witness. For a long time, no garbage went out of the home. There were heaps and heaps of rappers of the food ordered, and she would open the door just to receive the parcel. The money was paid online. She suffocated herself to death, which is very painful and difficult to perform.
He said, we as society members have to be cautious about this issue. Everyone has to talk to people around; this simple thing needs to be remembered and followed religiously. Communication is the only effective way to help people take such drastic steps in life.
The officer urged young people to talk to friends, relatives, and extended family members about their problems. The situation may be serious, but there is always some way out. Dying by suicide has never been a solution to any problem.
A senior counsellor suggested a few steps. She feels that whenever we meet someone, we need to acknowledge their presence and inquire how is everything is in their life. This may sound like a simple exchange, but sometimes it gives a little hope to individuals facing a difficult situation.
Sometimes people are trapped in a whirlwind of thought, and a little exchange offers some support and the feeling that one is not alone. It encourages the disturbed minds to communicate and seek help.
She made a very significant point; she implores all not be judgmental unnecessarily. Especially parents have to remember that being judgmental doesn't help anyone, it vitiates the situation and relation instead. It compels people to maintain distance and keep quiet. People around us avoid talking about their feelings or insecurities. It pushes them to the point of feeling lonely, too. Once they cut themselves away, it is very difficult to establish communication. We have to be very careful on this note.
On the contrary, some parents give too much space to their children, to the extent that they just don't know anything about them or the strife in their lives. They just live in oblivion; even this pattern of giving extreme liberty should also be avoided.
The most meaningful suggestion was that no one should shy away from taking the help of a professional counsellor. Usually, the helplines that help people in distress are absolutely free. It, unfortunately a stigma attached to it. As we go to a doctor for physical ailments, we need to seek help in case of mental problems, too. It certainly helps.
Pressure or tension has become a part of life now; the situations are very complex and demanding. We all have to handle them with a deft hand, cannot ignore them, thinking that time heals everything.